What Do Men Really Think About Weddings

So, I’m sitting in a consultation with my clients, a beautiful couple deciding on linens for their Winter Wonderland wedding.  As much as the groom tried, and boy did he try, he just couldn’t get into it all.  As the bride pawned over the different shades of white and ivory, she’d look to her hubby-to-be, his head would snap to attention and out of it a swift “sure babe,” “looks good” and on occasion “as long as you love it.”  She’d smile, roll her eyes and move on to the next shade.   

As the meeting progressed, with colors and linens confirmed, I provided the itemized invoice and what do you know, phone down, eyes squared we’ve officially got his attention.  I know it sounds cliché, but is it true?  That when it comes to weddings men are only concerned about one thing – not the theme, location, colors or even the date – they only care about the COST? 

What better way to find out then to ask, and that’s exactly what we did.  We called a few of our close clients, as well as two of our future grooms, and asked the million dollar question. 

The reality is, yes, cost is king for men.  However, they also care about the look of the wedding.  However, in most cases while their bride will lose sleep over the latter, they’re not as dedicated to the former and that’s where the groom comes in.  “Of course I want it to be nice because it’s a reflection of both of us; however in my case my wife had the design under control.  The only thing out of control was the cost” M. Hansen, 2008 Groom.

“Weddings are an important moment in two people’s lives.  The wedding is not the problem, it’s when ‘the moments’ cost too much and the importance of it is over inflated,” –D. Logan, Future groom.  “Girls see all the bride shows and want what they see, which for most couples is not realistic, and then they turn all Bridezilla.  No man wants to deal with that.”  “You’ve got couples literally going into major debt to live up to the commercialization of weddings.  Going in debt over a wedding should never be an option or considered.”

And there you have it.  When we take a step back, while the role the groom plays in the whole wedding thing is different, it’s necessary.  In most cases, he’s the realist.  He sees beyond right now and into the future.  Yes, he wants it to be nice, but nice can happen without breaking the bank. 

Okay fine, guys!  We can accept that ;)

Happy Planning!